In today’s episode, we discuss why we tend to people please and how to work past it, with guest Brea Johnson.
Brea is a Licensed Professional Counselor with over 5 years of experience working in the field. She has experience serving a variety of communities. She’s worked with the LGBTQIA community, children, young adults, couples, the geriatric population, and those with disabilities. Brea has specific experience working with depression, anxiety, relationship conflict, mood disorders, grief, transitions in life, career development, ADHD, self-esteem, anger management, gender identity, traumatic brain injury, sexual abuse, domestic abuse and any form of trauma. As a therapist, she strives to provide her clients with the tools to navigate life as well as process any transition that they may experience. Her approach is eclectic. She uses a Person-Centered approach, as well as a Holistic approach. By doing so, Brea aims to meet her clients where they are in order to see them as the expert of their lives.
- Live Well Tip of the Week: You were not made to make other people happy! Yes, we should spread joy and love to everyone around us, but happiness looks different for each person and that is not our responsibility. We can be considerate of others, but we weren't put here to make sure that other people are happy.
- People pleasing develops in childhood.
- Begin to break out of people pleasing through awareness. Find out why you are a people pleaser? Although this may be tough, it will take internal reflection.
- Brea discussed the difference between little trauma and big trauma in childhood.
- Reflect upon what you may have wanted from your childhood that you didn't receive, so that you can make the changes for your own kids.
- What does cultivation of self esteem look like for you and your children?
- Avoid being overly considerate. Speak on what works for you and what doesn't. Avoid being overly apologetic.
- No means no!
- Accept when it may be time to seek professional assistance. Maintenance therapy/ a regular check in with a professional can sometimes be very helpful.
- Take baby steps with your healing. Continue to move forward.
- Find a therapist who works well with your personality. It’s not a one size fits all.
- Guest Contact Info: Instagram: @therapywith_brreeaa